Dienstag, 8. November 2011

[Psychology] How to deal with setbacks - even if you fail 1,000 times

Elbert Hubbard said "There is no failure except in no longer trying."

I am one of those people that say, try, try and try again because I know that eventually it will work.(Does it, really?)

Thomas Edison said “I have not failed; I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” If you were trying to invent the light bulb, would you have quit after the 100th or 1,000th time?

There will always be obstacles on the path to success. They will sometimes be some of the most horrible, gut-wrenching times of your life, but I really feel that it won’t kill you but make you stronger and help you to enjoy the success even more.

Why do you think that you often hear stories of lottery winners that have blown millions in a few short years? It’s because they did not have to work for it. There was no sweat involved so it meant that the millions held no value, which is why they did not spend their money wisely.

The path of our dreams is often harder. I know because you have put your whole heart into it, so there is no falling back on that old excuse that you never wanted it.

Remember, the path to what we want is harder, but sweeter in the end.

Paulo Coelho says in The Alchemist "The secret to life is to fall seven times and get up eight."

Here are my Top Ten Ways to get back on the horse and try again after falling off:


1. Don’t criticize yourself, instead assess what went wrong, and be objective.

2. Write down again what your goal is. It’s important not to allow failure to make you lose sight of your goals.

3. Describe in words how it will taste, feel, and smell to be living your dream. Include what you will be seeing.

4. Phone your nearest and dearest friend and tell them that you need to go out for a night on the tiles. Trust me, sitting indoors and feeling like shit won’t help.

5. Write a To Do list. In order to take action, you need to know what action to take.

6. Do something different. When I have had a bad day, I like to wake up the next day at the crack of dawn when it’s quiet and calmly affirm to myself that everything is going to work out today!

7. Check all the details. The devil is in the details. Is there any detail of the plan that needs to be amended?

8. Educate yourself. Go down to the bookstore and get a book on your goal. It will help you with inspiration.

9. Google is your friend. Sometimes we fail because we haven’t done enough research. Surf the net on your topic and get some tips and inspirations.

10. Take a break. It’s good to get right back on the horse but sometimes in order to do better, you need fresh eyes. Take a break for a day and then come back refreshed. It will make all the difference.

And now it's your turn to stand up after falling, and deal with your own personal setback(s).

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